It was a matter of time...

Tonight folks.. I had to hear about something that really has been on my mind a lot lately.. It was just a matter of time. So I am sitting here hurting for my cousin/friend..  I've might have posted about her boyfriend.

I had stopped hanging around her, because I could not deal with all the mess he has put her through and she refused to listen to any of it.. It began from the 1st time they started dating.. I didn't care for him. He was to young and she has a lot going for her..

Then I found out about him and his abusive past. I knew it when I 1st laid eyes on him.. I tried telling her. I've been with his type before so I recognized the signs. Yet she kept telling me he isn't like that.

A few months later me and him got into it because he wrecked her car. I told her then.. LEAVE HIM ALONE. She wouldn't do it. I didn't know what hold this man had on her but I didn't like it. They would argue all the time and it just wasn't healthy for her or her kids. She didn't even know this man that long and he was already turning her life upside down... It became that me and a few of her other friends just stopped coming around. I knew we would catch a charge if we had to be around him.. She told me that she had been tell him that she needed for him to leave. She wasn't happy with the way the relationship was going. He even started accusing her of things..

So tonight she told me what he did to her. It broke me down. Cause it wasn't something I wanted her to go through. I've been through it myself...  I am going to be there for her.. I just pray that she doesn't take him back again... Love is suppose to be kind and loving.. A person you suppose to care about is not suppose to hit you.. A person that claims to love you suppose to make you happy.. I wish this type of thing would end..  No person suppose to lay a hand on their wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend.. It is just not right..

I am just glad that she finally saw what so many of us have been telling her.. I just hate that it came out this way..

My Thoughts of the Day... Domestic Violence..

My thoughts of today is one that is the Hot Topic right now. It is Domestic Violence. I for one don't think it is right for anyone to be abused in a relationship. I do know that I am tried of hearing the Rhianna and Chris Brown story. I feel they need to work things out for themselves. If she chooses to be with the man, then everyone else needs to back off. I tell you she really isn't listening to them.

I myself was in a relationship like this. I was being mentally, emotional, and physical abused. It wasn't fun at all. I tried to talk to people about it, and no one wanted to listen. I became a person I never thought I would be. An weak and confused woman. I thought the man loved me. I stay for a couple of years, but I ended leaving him one cold December day in 1998.

He was the type that wanted things his way. I am the same way though. So when he didn't get his way he would try to take it out on me. After we ended out relationship, he tried saying that he never abused me. See I would always fight back with something. Heck one day before Thanksgiving he tried to fight me. I ended up throwing a frozen turkey @ him. It hit him in the leg. He knew not to mess with me that night. I wanted to stab him up so badly.

His abuse was so bad to the point, I needed to go to seek help. I mean real mental help. So I don't wish this on anyone. I do wish that it is more places out there for women and men who are being abused by their mates. I so wished that I was able to received help when I was asking for it. His abuse cause me to loose a baby. His abuse cause me to have low self esteem. His abuse made me bitter.

Say no to Domestic Violence..