Why is America making a BIG freaking deal? They having articles and Radio show host talking about why there are so many Black Women being single.. Well from my point of view...
It is not the Black Church keeping us Black Women single.... It is the Black women are FED the F up.. I might have some people call me bitter.. I really don't care what you think of me... We have always been taught to be strong woman. Yet some of us believed a sorry ass man at some point...
I believe in love.. I have gave some of my best loving heart to 3 men in my life. I stood by them through it all.. Heck one went off married someone else. One still can't stay out of trouble.. The other one don't know what in the hell he wants... But all in all I was good to them..
I once was told that I was too good for him.. I was a wifey material, and he wasn't ready..
We all want to be loved. We all want that happy day.. Women we grewn up to think that is what our Adult life was to be like.. You know you get old, find a husband and have kids.. Heck to be really clear.. Back then in our grand parents days.. They only knew each other for a few months before getting married.. So I think the woman never had time to see that that man could be a trifling negro...
Oh.. let me take that back.. Not all men are trifling...
It is some women out there that is not so perfect either.. I must admit I am one of them..
Yet a man can get hurt once and then become just as bitter as us women.
A man sees how you carry yourself and from the 1st day of meeting you. He will judge you. From the 1st day he will set out to test you. You could either be the part time fling, the one time fling, or the life time fling. If he sees you as easy and gullible.. You should hang up any type of commitment from him. He aint gonna do it.. It is a proven fact...
This is what I believe the problem is... Men are afraid. If the man is still immature and still trying to go for his. He aint really feeling much of anything.. You can tell what type of man will respect you. A man that loves and adores his mother more than anything else. Will be a man that will respect and cherish a woman. Now sometimes you might find a sheep in wolves clothing though. You have to be careful. It isn't all the time though.
Then it is men out here that is trying to gain something. If a man doesn't have goals set out for himself. He will find a woman that can give him what he needs, until he can't get where he needs to be.. This becomes the sad thing now a days.. He will tell a woman all kind of crap just to make her fall in love and get what he wants. Then in the long run he gets tired and move on to the next one.
Black relationships are something that is hard to come by these days. Our relationships have been tainted since our ancestors was taking from Africa.. We were seperated. They made the black man feel less than what he was. Some still walk around with that mental. A man wants to be able to provide for a woman. When he feels less than a man, he will never commit..
So stop all this talk about why there are so many Black women single.. We are single cause why put up with the BS.. I know why I am single.. I loved a man so hard to I couldn't see straight.. I spent 6 years of my life with my world centered around his.. When he ended it.. I am loving myself.. I am enjoying myself... Sometimes we just got to take a break. When I am ready again, believe me this will be for life. I have no more time for fake and meaningless relationships...
So it is so many single Black Women out here, because some of us choose to be... A Man will never validate my worth.. A Man will not be the reason for my happiness.. A Man is never going to be the one to complete me.. I am in love with myself.. I know my worth.. I make my own self happy...
If he wants me to fully commit to him.. He better listen to Beyonnce.. You better put a ring on it.. LOL
ok.. I am now off the box.. LOL
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